Why does my cat sleep with me and not my husband?

Why does my cat sleep with me and not my husband?

How social cats behave varies between individuals and different breeds. Some cats hate when you pick them up, while others will climb on top of your shoulder and nap there. But regardless of how social your cat is, it will express love and affection for you in some way. 

A common way for many cats to express their trust and love for their owners is to share the bed with them at night. Not only is it infinitely adorable, but it might also be the ultimate way of expressing themselves: cats are the most vulnerable when they sleep, and there is no one they would rather seek shelter with than you.

However, some cats have more than one owner, and one would think that means double protection– and affection. On the contrary, cats will often reject the one owner and stick to sleeping with the other, making the neglected part feel resentful. So what causes this rejective behaviour from cats?

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Many couples share equal responsibility for a cat, but often, only one part gets the love and affection they both deserve from their pet. Some cats choose to share the bed with their owners; however, many couples often experience that the cat only wants to sleep with one of them.

Such behaviour can be hurtful for the rejected part– and if someone feels unfairly treated in a relationship– it can cause trouble in paradise. But why does the cat choose to sleep with only one person, is it deliberate, is it done with malice, or is there a reason it prefers one person?

The truth is that many cats tend to choose one human as their favourite human. Regardless of how much time and effort two people put into a cat, one person will be the cat's preferable, which is nothing personal to the other person and has to do with the cats' generally habitual personality. Once they have slept with one of their owners, it simply becomes a habit for them. And if one person is already the preferred 'go-to', then naturally, it will go there to sleep too.

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Sometimes, however, the cat can choose to change which person it sleeps with. This doesn't necessarily mean it has found a new favourite person, such a drastic change in an otherwise habitual creature can come from several factors.

Peoples sleeping patterns can change with seasons and as a natural result of ageing. Temperature changes, different climates, stress and general lifestyle changes can determine how we sleep. Cats rely on high-quality sleep, and if your sleeping pattern starts to interrupt their precious sleep cycle, they might move onto your partner if they lay stiller than you.

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Cats need to maintain a high standard sleep cycle to remain the miniature apex hunters they are. If the sleeping environment changes, the cat will realise it won't get the required sleep, and it might decide to sleep in another room.

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